To-do: Control my emotions

At least half of my clients come in with a goal of controlling their emotions. It makes sense; nobody enjoys the experience of sadness,...

Dear Overfunctioning Human...

Dear Human… Is your to-do list infinity-long? Do you schedule your life back to back to back? Do your days feel lengthy yet somehow never...

Why action plans don't work

For a long time, I believed change was all about actions. It was all about figuring out the right things to do. If I DID all the right...

A love note for you

Dear One, I know this moment right now does not feel like progress. Maybe you feel like you've lost all the ground you've gained. Maybe...

One simple way to make life better

One simple way to make life better: expect negative experiences. When we hold onto the expectation that we should be happy, that we...

Where perfectionism ends and life begins

If you’re a perfectionist like me, you have an overactive shame button inside of you that, once triggered, sets off this nasty blaring...