Why action plans don't work

For a long time, I believed change was all about actions. It was all about figuring out the right things to do. If I DID all the right...

A love note for you

Dear One, I know this moment right now does not feel like progress. Maybe you feel like you've lost all the ground you've gained. Maybe...

Why I have to move

I remember the first time I was really aware of my body. I was in 6th grade and joined the track team. Having participated more in music...

The winter blues?

I thought I was depressed. I’ve been feeling a bit blah recently. Not down. Not sad. Not upset. Just, a bit blah. Wondering if I was on...

Coming home

When my dad died in February, I lost all sense of home. I was half-orphaned — a gaping, black hole in my life and my being. Home has been...

Numbing works

I first learned how to numb when my mom became ill and was hospitalized when I was 13. She went to the hospital and we went into survival...

The gym is NOT the answer

Even typing this title seems like a betrayal. My family and friends know how happy the gym makes me. How I talked about CrossFit and my...

Lessons from my expat life: Say YES

The expat life starts with a yes that feels like leaping into an abyss. Yes. I will sign that multi-year contract, person I met...

Where perfectionism ends and life begins

If you’re a perfectionist like me, you have an overactive shame button inside of you that, once triggered, sets off this nasty blaring...